I'm hearing this saying doing the rounds in sermons etc:
"Soft words make hard people, hard words make soft people."
The implication being - therefore speak hard words.
Well. Maybe. And maybe Proverbs 15:1
"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
Let's not forget how this dynamic usually plays out: Hard words produce hard speakers. And hard speakers produce hard people.
I mean, if the saying just meant 'call a spade a spade' and 'straight talking reaches the heart' then that'd be grand. I'm just not so keen on justifying 'hard words' per se. To use them for their softening ability seems like the myth of violence applied to speech.
Allow this to be a gentle word on the matter. I wonder what kind of commenters it will produce...