There's Nothing 'Adult' About Porn

Over the summer we got Sky Sports so I could watch the Ashes (I still think I should ask for a refund!)  One morning I turned on to watch some highlights and caught the end of  ‘Aerobics Oz Style.’  I immediately laughed remembering the show from my youth in Australia.  As I recall, the whole thing was basically an ultra-gay fitness instructor in ultra-pink lycra teaching ultra-fat housewives to star-jump.

But it seems Aerobics Oz Style has changed.  The gay guy in spandex has been replaced by 5 supermodels – part silicone, part botox, part peroxide, all legs and boobs and hair and teeth – gently stretching in the Australian sunshine.  I stood there holding my remote – my laugh of recognition turned into this boyish burble.  “Hur hur hur- the purdy laydies with their purdy hair, hur hur.”  After a few seconds of slack-jawed, misty wonder I snapped out of it and changed channel.  But I couldn’t help asking myself – What just happened?  How did I go from grown-up to idiot boy in the space of 5 blondes?

Well here’s my quick answer: when women uncover themselves to serve passive men some fundamentals of masculinity are reversed. Or to put it another way: pornography turns a man into a child. (I’ll leave to one side women and porn here – though that needs thought too.)

Think about it:  A man is meant to go out from himself and win a bride.  He is meant to proactively serve an actual flesh and blood woman with real and costly service.  He – and he alone – is to uncover her nakedness (a common biblical phrase, see Lev 18) and enter into a deep oneness, not only of flesh but of soul and spirit also.  The woman is to be discerning, to give herself only to the one man who lays down his life for her.  She is to warmly receive him and him alone with single-hearted faithfulness.

But then, what happens with the man who indulges in pornography?  He doesn’t go out from himself but turns in on himself.  He pursues nothing but his own desires.  He woos no-one but himself.  He is not the active servant, he is the passive recipient.  He doesn’t uncover her nakedness, she indiscriminately uncovers herself.  He doesn’t engage her mind or heart but merely consumes her flesh.  This image calls forth nothing from the man except his credit card details.  And the habituation of this selfishness will only shut him down further.  Pornography turns a man into a child.

Which is why the male icon of the porn industry pads around his mansion in his jim-jams.

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Posted on by Glen in culture, pornography, sex

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I'm a preacher in Eastbourne, married to Emma.

8 Responses to There's Nothing 'Adult' About Porn

  1. theothergardener

    So sick of put-downs of porn by men who watch porn. Trying to drum up a date?
    TOG

  2. Si

    Whenever the TV announcer says “contains Adult humour” I always raise a smile – it’s exactly the same jokes that I laughed at 8 years old, just made (much) more crude. Adult material, childish humour, isn’t “Adult humour” at all.

  3. Heather

    I don’t at all envy the position that today’s entertainment and fashion industry has placed men. It’s one thing to be naturally inclined to think a certain way–we all have to do business with God over what we are…

    But the constant assault on the senses is sickening. Anymore, if one isn’t numb to the disgrace of cheapened sexuality, he is likely to be constantly gagging and running for shelter.

    Good points about the connection between feeding sin and childish selfishness. I suspect that basic effect is true across the board, regardless of who is doing it or what form the sin actually takes.

  4. Pedro

    A very helpful exposé of just what porn actually is/does in the context of how God has designed relationships to function. Far more useful than the two default approaches in Christian circles: one, that it’s a totally taboo subject; and two, if it ever does get mentioned then it’s simply a case of “don’t”, without revealing exactly what the dynamics are that are at stake. Identifying what is actually going on is vital, surely.
    Thanks for saying it like it is.

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  7. Tim C

    Something someone said to me a couple of years ago was quite telling. One of the main problems that keeps us hooked on porn is the fact that we have confused intimacy with eroticism and turned them into one and the same thing.

    So, while porn most definitely arises chiefly from a sinful introspection, a denial of the other-person-centred glory of God, there is alongside this core reason a human need for intimacy which people try to satisfy with porn.

    The problem is, as you bring out very well here, that there is no true intimacy in porn since this is the main thing that you take out of sex when you go solo.

    If we were to find ways of articulating what true intimacy is, both inside and outside of a purely sexual context, then perhaps we would be quicker to spot the descent into childhood that porn provokes every time we linger on such images… and run quicker to the true intimacy we know we have through Christ in the fellowship of the Trinity.

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